Is the Step-Mother always Wicked?

Is it something about a wedding ring that makes a woman forget that dude has kids with someone else? Why don’t women realize that your life instantly changes when you become a step-parent? We would all like to think that we are big enough to open our hearts and homes to the love of our lives kids. There are real emotions that you can never predict. His children are a constant reminder that you indeed were not his first. Even if his story is that she tricked him or that she is some gold digger, you have to at least question his decision making skills. There will be jealousy, anger, frustration and a myriad of other emotions that you will experience. If you DECIDE to have children of your own with him, regardless of what you say to him, you will expect that he treats your children together “better” than he does the ones he has with the “trifling ho” that tricked him into having his baby. Every time he writes out a check for child support you will realize that it is taking away from your household. That is if he is even paying child support. Let’s hope that you would be the type of woman that would encourage your husband to take care of his child(ren). If you are not, maybe your desire to be a WIFE surpasses your desire to do what’s right.
Does being selfish when picking a mate make you a bad person? No. You have the right to set standards for the person you will potentially spend the rest of your life with. I would suggest that prior to picking out your bridesmaids dresses, you sit down with your mate and have an open , honest discussion of what you expect and how you intend to fit in to his ready-made family. Here are some questions to start the dialogue:
1. How many kids do you have? (you probably should know that before you say yes to his proposal)
2. Do you pay child support? Are you in arrears?
3. How much time do you spend with your kids NOW? Do you have a custody/visitation order in place?
4. Are you on good terms with the mother?
5. What role will I play in disciplining the kids?
If you don’t think this conversation is necessary you will have a rude awakening the first time he gets out of bed with you in the middle of the night to go to the emergency room to sit with his ex and THEIR baby.

Mike Vick-Where's the Story?

All he did was kill some dogs…right? Why don’t we cut him some slack? He did his time. Why is it taking him so long to be signed?
Maybe someone can explain it to me. If he were a stockbroker and convicted of running a prostitution ring; would he be allowed to seamlessly return to Wall Street after serving his time?
Don’t shoot the messenger (you could always strap me to a mating harness and let …ok never mind)
I am not a big fan of football. I couldn’t tell you what his average was, or how many yards he ran for. I can say that everyone deserves a second chance. If football is all he knows then he should be allowed to return to the game. What we can do from this point is teach our young boys that while they are in college pursing the NFL instead of the M.B.A; have a back up plan. I applaud Michael Vick for now reaching out to inner city youth warning them of the dangers of dog fighting. Animals should never have to die to make a millionaire hood rich. If only someone could have gotten this message to him 3 years ago. I am confidant that we are a very forgiving society. Vick will once again make millions for himself and the billionaire owner who eventually signs him.

RIP..Blue

I'm just sayin

Is it ever cool to stand in front of someone's little ass cubicle at work & carry on an entire conversation on decible 25 with SOMEONE ELSE????
I'm just sayin.....

Is Sex A Deal Breaker?

If you met the man/woman of your dreams would the fact that they didn’t blow your mind in the bedroom be a deal breaker? The conversation is great. You always have fun together. You are physically attracted to each other. You have similar life goals but no matter how hard you try you cannot find the big O. Most people do not agree to spend the rest of their lives together only to HAVE to sleep with other people. If we are honest with ourselves, sex is a very big part of any relationship.

When you wrote out your list of qualities you look for in a mate did you include sexual compatibility? If not, re-write your list. Today.

In the words of Rrahh...I'm a Flirt

I watched Dr. Phil today and the topic was about flirting. What stuck out to me was the married couple profiled. The husband would flirt with women in front of his wife. He picked a chick up in a bar and carried her on his shoulders to the bathroom. He chased his wife’s friend around a pool and tackled her into the water. IN FRONT OF HIS WIFE. Craziness. He didn’t think he was a flirt. When Dr. Phil asked him what he thought was flirting, this nut job said and I kind of quote “grabbing a woman’s butt or genitals and or kissing” WTF? Since he wasn’t doing any of those things he said his wife should not be upset and she was just insecure. He thinks he is just super friendly. I think he is a scumbag. I have a lot of male friends and none of them pick me up and carry me ANYWHERE. And not one of their crazy behinds would fondle random skanks in front of their wives. What’s really going on?
I don’t know if I could live with a man who constantly searched out the attention of OTHER women. It’s one thing to innocently flirt but when it becomes disrespectful it is definitely time to reevaluate your relationship.

I am a pretty good catch! Why haven't I been snatched up yet?

Are you one of the last of your friends to be married? Have you ever wondered what it is about you that scares even the most eligible of bachelors away? How many times have you heard it’s not you it’s me? I hate to tell you this……It is YOU. Harsh? Yes True? Probably.
Let’s face it. If you are somewhat attractive, a nice person, health conscious (you don’t eat fast food everyday and take an occasional walk), a good friend, have a good sense of humor AND have your own dough and you are still single AND OVER 35; it is the choices YOU are making that is keeping you from walking down the aisle.
Think about it for a minute. Are you picking the same guy over and over but don’t understand why your relationships don’t last? Maybe you are attracted to ineligible men because it is YOU who is afraid of commitment. Maybe you are extremely picky (He sweats too much) because if no one can live up to your expectations you can’t be let down or disappointed.
Remember: Same actions, same results. Try something different. Start with working on you.