No more Baby Mama

There is a campaign going to retire the word Swagger. While we are at it, can we retire Baby Mama and Baby Daddy? I absolutely refuse to turn 9 months of pregnancy, a combined week of labor and the last 15 years and 10 months of parenting into a term of such accusation and disgust. Just because I couldn’t be a successful partner doesn’t mean I am not a successful MOTHER and co-parent to my children.
I hate to be referred to as “baby mama". How about “this is Lolita’s mother”? Or better yet, “this is Kena…Lolita’s mother”. It seems that along with the term baby mama comes the expectation of drama. Often times there is no drama involved when two people decide that although they like each other, they are just not in love enough to stay together. Those two people can work together to build a life for the child they share. The trick is to be open and honest about your expectations and what you are willing to compromise. We all want what is best for the kids. They are the only ones who really matter in this mess called life. How can a child respect either parent when they hear their mom or dad refer to the other one as baby mama or baby daddy? Doesn’t that kind of downplay how they came to be?